Trusting you matter, and that you are having impact
Feedback from the most surprising place
In this conditioned ‘outside-in’ world of ours, a world that continuously tells us that we are not enough, we cannot be alone, we have to buy more stuff, we have to get a posh job title etc, it is easy to think and feel that we don’t matter.
A wonderful paradox is that we are so insignificant in the cosmic scheme of things, yet we are all wonderfully significant as we are already part of that same cosmic scheme of things.
We are both/and, all at the same time.
Contrary to the binary division that is fuelling our media and politics right now.
So what does it mean to trust that we matter, that YOU matter and that you ARE having impact?
This, you will be unsurprised to hear, comes from WITHIN.
As my good friends at WorldBlu taught me back in 2018, we are already a 10/10 in terms of self-worth and mattering, from the inside-out.
No matter what is going on in the world, no matter how we feel, no matter what mistakes we make, we are always a 10/10 self-worth.
Do you believe that? Can you feel that?
I sometimes forget this.
Working within a corporate space as I do, as well as working on the outside, I still catch myself, as I did this week, coming form that Stockholm syndrome space.
That desire for my employer to love me, to see me, to want me to grow and be better, yet knowing that striving for validation and acceptance of not only who I am, but who I could become, is highly unlikely to ever emerge.
I know this as ideas I offered 8-10 years ago are starting come into fruition today, led by peers who side lined me previously.
I know this as peers and colleagues are promoted and are given opportunities that I was asking for 6-8 years ago.
I am not jealous or irritated honestly, just sharing a vulnerable, honest reflection.
Unknown impact
I attended a full day sales meeting during the day on Thursday 14th Dec 2023, and during a break, one of my colleagues who I had not seen in over 5 years, drops the following into conversation.
“I used to really enjoy those learning and development modules that you created. There was something that you said during one of the sessions, something around the fact that we should allow ourselves to join our work and home lives. I was inspired to set myself the target of taking up swimming and lost of loads of weight as a result.”
There was no grandstanding, no special emphasis around this story. Just a matter of fact comment from someone who I last saw years ago.
Whilst it was lovely to receive this external feedback, randomly, and of course it felt good, it didn’t change that I was already 10/10 self-worth.
This feedback didn’t cause me to be or do anything differently.
What it reminded me of is that is that I matter, and in my own way, I am having impact.
You matter and you are having impact.
It isn’t about the likes, feedback and acknowledgment.
It’s REMEMBERING.
Remembering that YOU and we are already whole, we are already enough.
From the INSIDE-OUT.
It was a fun party last night, I have hurt my knee after dancing so much and I really appreciate these cosmic reminders from time to time.
So much healing and possibility is sitting within us, inside our bodies, waiting to be remembered.
Wishing you a safe and enjoyable weekend ahead as we stay mindful of the systemic injustices, inequities and pointless loss of life and potential that surrounds us, know that YOU matter.
Trust yourself.
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My name is Garry Turner and I guide the expansion of possibilities at the intersections of International Sales, People & Culture, Equity & Inclusion and Sustainability:
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